CHAPTER XVII POWER OF REPOSE
THERE are two sides to the study of personal
magnetism. One is the negative side by which faults are seen and eliminated.
The other is the positive side by which excellencies are acquired. Previous
lessons give you a good idea of what is meant by negative practice, while this
period includes that which belongs to the positive side. We have gone far
enough now for each and every pupil to have seen remarkable results from the
practice. If you do not notice them it must be due to one of two causes:
1.
Because a steady and healthy growth is not observable to the grower.
2.
Your intelligence may not admit of your understanding the meaning of
the principles laid down in the preceding periods. This we are not inclined to believe.
Although a steady and healthy growth is not
observable to the grower under ordinary circumstances, the kind of progress
that ought to be made in this course of training should be something more than
the average; something out of the ordinary. There can be no doubt that every
person who is endowed with at least ordinary intelligence ought to have made
marked and decided progress up to this time. We speak from a vast experience in
the past.
When the theory is fully understood, the
student takes hold with an earnest resolve to succeed; and failure has never
yet been recorded under such circumstances. We therefore recommend that sure
ground be first attained by a review of all the Magnetic Principles thus far
presented in the book, unless you are positive that they are clear to you. Perhaps
there may be doubt as to the meaning of some of them,
which a
careful review would immediately settle.
The
importance of this stage outranks all
others. It
alone
makes success possible. Do
not shirk the work. If
you are a
leaker you
will suffer something of agony when the
outflow of vital-force is held in check for the
first time. Nervousactivity grows on a person. It is always a
cause of lost power. In a case in court the author witnessed the conduct of the
two opposing counsel.
1.
One was active, full of life and movements, "smart," as they
termed it. He got excited when he became earnest. He tired his listeners and
beholders.
2.
The other was calm and solid as a fixed rock. Not one waste motion
escaped him. When he spoke his voice was full of a pleasant vigor and
accumulated feeling that held all listeners spellbound. He commanded respect.
When he became earnest his calmness was so intense that it seemed a
disappointment that he should stop at all. He was never fidgety, never got
excited, never hitched and halted in his words. He won the case. Such people
are rare. How we respect a lady or gentleman who can show such self-control!
The difference between the effort to conquer
leakage and the practice of dead-stillness is not great. One is the elimination
of sudden starts, jerks and quick movements that throw off vitality, while the
other is the positive assertion of control with reference to the whole body.
Both seem alike, and reach the same results, namely, self-mastery. The present
period may require what seems like the necessity of practice, yet we hope to
convince our pupils that everything herein given may be adopted in the daily
habits of life.
The ability to use the eye successfully depends
upon the magnetic conditions back of it. If the vitality of the will power is
overcome, or is likely to be overcome, or if you do not care to take the
trouble to arouse it, the safer way is to let the eyes drop, look off, or rest
upon vacancy. No test of honesty is to be had in the use of the eyes,
when they are thrown at will into any direction the owner pleases. The
evidence of dishonesty, or, to speak more
accurately, of fear,
is found in the attempt
to look into another person's face and quailing before the glance. The
embarrassment is heightened by the action of the blood. Dishonesty prompts
fear. There is an apprehension that the truth is known. The difference between
the removed glance of a magnetic person who does not care to arouse his power,
and the faltering look of dishonesty is a wide one.
In the use of the eyes it is always advisable
not to allow an earnest person of composure to hold your gaze riveted, unless
you are more in earnest, for magnetic vitality plays havoc upon the thoughtless
and careless. You may make yourself so much of a negation as to be led by
another without having knowledge of the fact. The man who was told that a
certain lawyer would control him if he ever sat on a jury in a trial where the
lawyer appeared, replied, "I will decide the case according to the
evidence, and no man living can influence me to do otherwise." The trial
Occurred, and this strong-minded man was foreman of a jury that brought in a
prompt verdict for that lawyer's client. He was reminded of his statement, and
justified himself by saying, "The evidence was all in his favor." So
it was, but justice was the other way.
No person is won by an open use of the power of
magnetism. The announcement in advance, or the expectation, that a certain
person is to make an effort to secure control over you would set you against
all such endeavors, and would without doubt defeat the attempt. Unless
overwhelmed by a fear of weakness in an encounter of the kind you would be
impregnable. The victory in any case must rest upon the willingness of the
person to yield, and that willingness must be won. Many an enemy has been
resolute in mind up to a point where resistance was gladly laid down, not
forced down.
In dead-still work the rule is an important one
which tells you that the mood of the person before you must be known. If he is
in earnest you must not give him the opportunity of
fixing the
gaze of your eyes upon his unless you arc more
in earnest.
Then it is
a battle for supremacy.
Do not think
that you
are to gain anything by a fixed glare of the eye.
It might
give warning
and defeat its mission, for a steady
glance is
likely to
attract attention and excite the thought.
"Oh,
he is trying
to outstare me!"
Never stare at any person;
it is rude. Save the power of your eye for such times as you choose to
employ it for substantial victory.
This brings us to the consideration of
dead-stillness in the presence of others. The quiescent condition is not magnetic
stillness; it is always rest or stupidity, never repose. That is, it is not
called repose even if it is absolutely still or dead. There must be the
magnetic life of the live engine, with the calmness of conscious strength; the power
of the full developed energy without waste of force. When you have such
vitality, not physical, but nervous, then you are ready to put dead-stillness
to practical usefulness. Look at some examples of it.
Standing before a vast mob that threatens to demolish
a great city with the growing vengeance, a nervous man calls, shouts and
gesticulates, all in vain. His wild antics exhaust themselves upon deaf ears.
Another man, his eye fixed with earnestness, steps forward upon a balcony,
looks calmly into the heart of the assemblage, never moves a line of his face,
raises his hand for attention, and stands like a statute while the fixed gaze
holds the eyes of all the multitude. He makes no sign, expresses no appeal with
voice or glance; shows no mark of anxiety on his face, does nothing to ask for
silence, and there he stands a volcano of pent up energy under absolute
control; and it is true that his perfect stillness gives him his magnetism. The
attitude tells the complete story of the situation; a man of heroic purpose
determined to become the master of that mob.
This is life. It is also an actual incident. It
tells the story of life. What good would shouting do? What would be the use of
frantic appeals, prayers, entreaties, threats, stormy passion or plaintive coaxing? How many persons
would have thrown themselves into a paroxysm of
action, from the sternest command to the most intense soliciting, in the effort
to still the mob? Yet there was but one kind of person who could succeed in the
attempt, and that was the dead-still individual; one who could gaze calmly into
the angry faces and assert his superior power. One by one they looked upon him
and came to recognize his god-like bearings; their voices were lost in their
eyes; a feeling of approaching silence began to travel across the crowd; it
deepened; the man stood like a rock, yet alive to the highest degree; the
shouts died away; all was as quiet as the grave; and in the hush of that solemn
stillness his every word was heard and absorbed. One man had mastered many thousands.
A well-known business man of great coolness and
magnetism, took his accounts home one night for the purpose of looking over
them. He had a sum of money with him, of which a desperado had knowledge. It
was the hour of midnight ; stormy without; and lonely within. The man sat at
his desk writing, and thought he heard the sound of steps in the adjoining room
which was dark, although the door stood open. He was a man of magnetism as we
have said. One of the essentials of magnetism is coolness; coolness to an extraordinary
degree. The person who gets excited, who shows fear, who trembles, who quails
before anything, is to that extent lacking in this power.
Coolness can be acquired. We have had letters
from nervous persons who have said they were incapable of becoming cool; and
yet they conquered the fault as soon as they began to develop magnetism. From
the very fact that nervous motions cause a rapid loss of vitality by throwing
off the energy of the body, it could at once be seen that the absence of
coolness would amount to a loss of control over another person. The man
referred to was of the combination required to cope with the burglar. The
following conversation is substantially that which took place:
"Come in."
The burglar resolved to kill the merchant if he
resisted ;
and, although he was surprised at the
announcement, he entered the room, leveled a revolver at the head of his
victim, approached toward him and said;
"I've got you."
"Eh?"
"I've got you."
"Sit down."
"No, I won't. I'm here for business. I've got you."
"Eh?"
"You're mine. Now give up."
"Isn't your language a little peculiar for
a professional burglar ?"
"Well, that's my lookout. Give me that
money or you're a dead one."
"The money is all right. I give lots of
money away without being asked for it. I don't mind the money. I have plenty
for my own use and to give away. I don't like the tone of your voice."
"That's all right. Be quick now. I'm here
to do a clean job."
"What will you do?"
"I'll kill you if you move."
"What good would it do you to kill me? You
would hang for it."
"Hang nothing."
By this time the merchant, who had kept his
eyes fixed on the burglar, found a slight evidence of quailing in the latter. From that moment he was
sure of the result.
"You will certainly be hung. Do you see that
button?"
"Yes."
"Do you hear the sound below?"
"Officers?"
"Give me your revolver."
The man is now serving a term in the
penitentiary.
Coolness with magnetism are sure to conquer all
things; and these two qualities belong together. The more of one you get the
more of the other will follow, provided the coolness is not of the blase, cold-blooded type of
stupidity. Remember
that the engine must be alive with power.
A minister stands in the pulpit delivering his
sermon. He is languid, gentle, quiet, cool, collected, effeminate, weak and yet
free from nervousness. He lacks the energy of a thoroughly live man. There are
no fires in the engine; hence the quietude of the body.
Another minister stands in the pulpit
delivering his sermon. He has vitality enough, but it leaks out at all sides.
His head beats the emphasis of his ideas just as nearly all readers' and
speakers' heads do. His eyes are unsteady, looking in every direction without
power of expression. He steps about, shifting his weight every minute or two,
now advancing, now retiring, now going across to the right or the left, and
never standing still very long at a time. He brings the upper half of his body
forward and bends to give emphasis to a supposedly strong idea, doing this
several times a minute. He gestures in every sort of way, but contents himself
to do finger movements in the absence of the full-arm action whenever the
thought is not weighty enough to admit of gesticulation. Soon he has exhausted
all that stock of energy that would have gone to produce magnetism, and he now
finds that he must make up in the physical what he lacks in the magnetic, and
he shouts and pounds.
Another minister, the rare kind, the individual
with the greatest degree of honesty because he has the conscience to equip
himself for his profession, stands in his pulpit delivering his sermon. He is
cool, not because he is weak, but because he knows that great truths require
all the power a man possesses to give them full weight of utterance. He stands
still. When there is cause for action of the whole body he steps forward with a
single movement as a stately ship might swing from her moorings, not as a
fidgety orator might jog about over the platform. His head is not bobbing up
and down, right and left, to the rhythm of his words, as is so commonly the
case with speakers. He
keeps his head erect upon his
shoulders, strong, powerful, energetic, but in perfect repose. This is
what excites the admiration of the congregation.
Few men and few women carry their heads in magnetic poise. When weak it falls forward,
or is inclined to the right or left, or is tilted back; while the person of
magnetism is of easier
and yet more solid poise.
There is no setness, no stiffness about the neck; but there is firmness
and certainty of carriage
that denotes the presence of
power. To be still does not require that one be
stiff; the stillness of death holds that quality. We wish the stillness of life. When the ordinary person
is told to straighten up, to remove the lines of weakness, he has no other recourse than to the
lines of hardness, and the latter is worse than the former. Magnetism steers us clear
of these extremes.
The third minister of whom we spoke was magnetic. He had cultivated the
body and all its faculties. He knew the value of repose, of dead-stillness, as
he stood before his audience. The vitality that another might have thrown away
in useless action he kept in storage to be dealt out as he chose. His gestures
were inclined to assume the character of attitudes, for he presented as much
versatility in his physical portrayal of his thoughts as did any of his
brother preachers; but he preferred the gesture of the outstretched arm and
expressive position of the hand rather than the swinging motion so common to
others. Why is it that nearly all speakers believe that motion expresses more
than attitude? Does the blow dealt by the hand hit anybody in a gesture; and,
if not, why is the uplifted arm and clinched fist not more expressive of the
meaning of a blow? The speaker seeks to illustrate his thought. He cannot
reproduce life by acting its details. He cannot fire a gun when he tells of a
killing. Repose in the attitude of description is always more effective and far
more beautiful than action that never comes to a position of meaning.
A lawyer who holds mastery over himself at once wins respect. He does not fly up out of
his chair to force his objection upon the judge. If the interests of his client demand
that he make objection he can always be heard,
and the more dignified he is the more likely he will be to get a full hearing.
Judges admire cool, self-possessed lawyers; they dislike the active, nervous
fellows who try to carry everything before them as by storm. The cool lawyer is
most powerful in handling witnesses, for he thinks more rapidly and carries
more trains of thoughts than the excitable lawyer. In the trial of a case there
are unlimited opportunities for collateral thinking, for ideas on the side; for
there are strings constantly going out in all directions, every one of which
must be held in hand ready for use.
The habit of walking to and fro while speaking,
is the result of nervousness, and is very taxing on the vitality. It occurs before
juries and before audiences generally. Some men walk up and down before a jury,
striding from place to place as though the action were impelled by a special
degree of interest; but if you will take notice of the successful, the brainy,
the magnetic lawyers, and orators generally, you will find them keeping closer
to a given spot It is true that action arouses latent magnetism; but when it
is aroused, it should not be wasted and thrown away wantonly.
There is no objection to be offered to the
practice of standing in complete repose while speaking. It possesses the
unusual charm of rarity; for the persons who are capable of it are few indeed.
The gift or talent commences at the face, at the brows even, and no muscles are
employed except those required in speech. It is a very common habit to move the
entire face while talking. What is the use of it? Nothing is gained except
wrinkles. Very nervous persons have what is almost equal to St. Vitus's dance
in the twitching of the face; and there are not two in a hundred of all the men
and women you see who are able to perfectly control the action of the face,
whether awake or asleep.
The first charm, then, is the repose of face
muscles. It is always acquired. The magnetic person knows enough to save
energy, even in the smallest motions, for they count up the largest totals in
the long run. Yet there are
not many;
who can completely obliterate all facial action
when speaking or conversing.
The brows are constantly at work
accompanied by the lids in most instances. Some are able to stop winking, but cannot stop the rising and falling of the brows. Many keep
the cheek muscles active while talking; and do so unnecessarily. If you will attempt to
converse before a mirror you will find out the difference between using the
full action of the mouth, and the extra action of the face muscles.
It is true that the jaw must open and close
while we talk. It is true that the muscles of the cheeks are employed in words
that contain the sounds of far, oh, ee, and others similar. It is also
true that, to avoid mouthing and indistinct utterance, all vowel sounds should
be given their full openness which requires mouth change and involves the
assistance of the lower half of the face. But it is not true that setness of
face after every labial consonant, the smacking of the lips in opening a
syllable, the spreading of the face, the side action of the nose muscles, and
the constant manoeuvres of the cheeks and jaw help the powers of enunciation.
It is in the words of Francis Bacon that we
find ourselves in the presence of an intellect which grasps the principles of
all knowledge. In the
words of Shakespeare we find vividly embodied almost every experience of human
life. We are awed by
the sublimity and grandeur of the thoughts
of him
who expressed himself in the words of the. Nineteenth Psalm. So the jewels, the beauty,
the power and glory of life, and of hope
hereafter, are contained in words that are made by the human voice alone, and
shaped into coins that exist forever.
Don't be indifferent to the might and influence
of clearly articulated words.
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