CHAPTER XII MAGNETISM FOR EVERYONE
THUS far in this volume we have outlined the
general nature and trend of magnetism. We take a step nearer to the real work,
by examining frankly the prospects of acquiring the art by practice.
Many years ago the author strenuously
maintained that personal magnetism was a gift, that it could not be acquired by
practice, and above all things could not be taught. At that time there were
quite a number of distinguished men who were in professional or political life
who were reputed to possess this sacred gift in a very high degree. Their success
everywhere seemed to prove that they had some preeminently great power over
men, not only in public places, but in private conversation. This power by
universal consent was called by the familiar title, personal magnetism.
Nor was it observable under these circumstances
alone. On social occasions a rare few displayed it. We shall never forget the
evening, when at a magnificent drawing-room reception a lady swept into our
midst and by a single glance of the eye, a tone of the voice, held everybody
spellbound. There were able and talented geniuses present who had hitherto
charmed and won homage, but her power was so simple, so irresistible and so
complete, that even the brilliant men tacitly acknowledged her to be more than
their peer. She was not beautiful. Her features were neither stern nor weak.
Every movement, every glance, every tone indicated something that, while it
was devoid of assumption, effectually asserted a superiority of charm. It must
not be said that personal magnetism belongs wholly to men.
The author still clung to his opinion that this gift could notbe
acquired, and in a private conversation with the lady
referred to above, sought to obtain some light upon the phenomenon. It was expected that she would
deny her possession of such a gift, but on the contrary she said, "I feel
that
I have some power over
others; but a few years ago I did not have any at all."
"Do you mean to say it was not born in you?" It certainly was
not born in me. Some years ago I was quite the opposite. I had but few friends,
many enemies, and was without any influence among my fellow beings. Since then
my circumstances have not changed, but I have. It was not all self-training,
either."
On further conversation she told the following story: Her sister had
married a politician who was reputed to be one of the most magnetic men
living. Indeed, his
successand his power over men and audiences were wonderful.
He was well known everywhere. She sought his confidence, and by persistent
teasing obtained from him the fact that he had acquired the whole power, and by
a certain kind of practice and a special rule of conduct had built up a
splendid magnetic body and mind. He furthermore expressed the opinion that no
person is born with it, but that many are born with tendencies that under
favorable circumstances may develop it; he believed that every person could
acquire it, if he or she would.
The author was certainly surprised.
He afterwards spent years in testing the truth of the latter remark. He
formed the acquaintance of the great men, who were called magnetic and
influential over their fellow beings, and found first, that in proportion as
they were great they were obliging, and this made it possible to converse with
them. Without a single exception these men asserted that the power or gift
they possessed was acquired and not born in them.
The question next arose, shall the persons who do not possess this power
be believed when they say it cannot be
acquired,
or shall those who possess it and know how
they
came with it, be credited?
We are sure that it can be
acquired.
What is personal magnetism?
It is the
power
to control persons who come within reach of the voice, eye or touch.
Is it anything like
mesmerism?
Probably nothing at all like it. Mesmerism is a
deadening of nerve force and a capture of the belief of a victim. Personal
magnetism on the contrary is noble, pure, lofty and sublime in its influence
upon the mind of the possessor, and upon those who feel its spell. The minister
who possesses it is inspired with a power almost God-like; the lawyer, who wins
as Rufus Choate did nearly every jury case he ever tried, compels an admiration
for himself and his cause by the ennobling influence of this gift; the actor
charms; the physician gains his victory for good; the lady entices into a
pleasant homage. There is always a joyous, exhilarating, fascinating feeling
which is shared by both the controller as well as by the controlled, which is
said not to be the case in mesmerism. More than this, it always creates in the
controlled some degree of the same power over others, which mesmerism is said
never to do.
The power of personal magnetism is so gentle
and yet so effective that the person controlled knows nothing of the process
going on, and thinks and believes that perfect freedom of will is his, which
is probably the case, and he always wills to do as he is inclined.
The art is not speculative. There is not a
single page of this book devoted to notions, whims, or fancies. The plain facts
are adhered to; results are aimed at; the whole object of the book is to prove
what can be accomplished in the reader, not what pet theories may be advanced.
Not a moment of time should be wasted in speculation.
The principle of life, or vital-force, is
dealt with as an existing, controllable power. The heart is the mere physical
engine of the body, but there is a mightier
force back of it, the spark of life, which is fed by the three great
elements:
1.
Human Electricity.
2.
Human Magnetism.
3.
Human Fire.
The combination of these three elements
produces an influence as quick in its motion as light, as thin as the universal
ether, as powerful as the affinity of the world systems of the sky.
The earth is on the threshold of stupendous
inventions and discoveries; the intellect of man must grasp more of the
knowledge of life itself, if it
would keep pace with the progress going on around it. We are just learning what
the spark of life is; the reader of this book will have acquired an intimate
knowledge of what it is; he will learn more; he will learn that it may be
controlled, built up, increased in power and intensity until it is a giant; and
he will finally learn that it may be used as a giant in the great battle
of life.
One of the most magnetic men the author ever
met, claimed with great enthusiasm that a person ought to preserve a youthful
feeling and not grow old for one hundred years. His assertion did not prove
true, for he died at the age of eighty-two by being thrown from a
carriage.
The author knows of two gentlemen of great
magnetism and wonderful success in life who claim to have acquired it all by
years of private investigation into the subject, who are trying to observe a
certain rule of daily conduct, in the hope that they may live to a great age.
It was over twenty years ago when they first undertook the study and practice.
The present age is one of hurry and excitement,
and is undoubtedly leading to nervousness and nervous prostration in
an unusual degree. Into this whirl are carried the great geniuses in all the
departments of life, while the littleness of the men and women of the
middle and lower ranks is deprived of the hope of outgrowing itself. The reader
need not cast about to find some illustration of this fact in others. Selfstudy
will sufficiently prove it in every
reader.
You are
constantly
yielding to the limitations of your power.
The
immortal poet who uttered the words:
"Haste not,
rest not," struckthe key-note of many a grand
life. A steady purpose in life, attended by
unceasing effort, will accomplish all or nearly all that one can desire. But it
is one of the greatest sources of irritability to hurry, get excited and fail.
And irritability is an enemy of the magnetism we are aiming to generate and
control.
The vital-force or the spark of life consists
of three elements: Electricity, Magnetism and Fire. These are constantly
being generated by the principle of existence, and in persons of normal
self-control are used only as fast as produced ; in persons of weak control
they are wasted faster than they are generated; and in persons who rule or
control others and generally win the battle of life, the nerves and brain are
generally super-charged with those elements. The ability to super-charge the
nerves and brain with electricity, magnetism and fire is the result aimed at
in the exercises which are called the cultivation of personal magnetism, and
which comprise the present volume.
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