LESSON FORTY-FIVE - CALMNESS
HAVING ACHIEVED THE FIRST VICTORY by the resolute determination to put
an end to leakage and restlessness, it will be possible now to take up the
affirmative lines of practice in substituting repose or power in place of loss
of energy. Examples are always helpful in acquiring an understanding of the
meaning of a great proposition. These examples are seen in everyday life about
us. First let us recall a case in court where we witnessed the conduct of two
opposing counsel.
1. One was active, full of
life and movements, "smart," as they termed it. He got excited when
he became earnest. He tired his listeners and beholders.
2. The other was calm and
solid as a fixed rock. Not one waste motion escaped him. When he spoke his
voice was full of a pleasant vigor and accumulated feeling that held all
listeners spellbound. He commanded respect. When he became earnest his calmness
was so intense that it seemed a disappointment that he should stop at all. He
was never fidgety, never got excited, never hitched and halted in his words. He
won the case. Such people are rare. How we respect a lady or gentleman who can
show such self-control!
This brings us to the consideration of dead-stillness in the presence of
others. The quiescent condition is not magnetic stillness; it is always rest or
stupidity, never repose. That is, it is not called repose even if it is
absolutely still or dead. There must be the magnetic life of the live engine,
with the calmness
of conscious strength; the power of the full developed energy without
waste of force. When
you have such vitality, not
physical, but nervous, then
you are ready to put dead-stillness to practical usefulness.
Look at some examples of it.
Standing before a vast mob that threatens to demolish a great city with
the growing vengeance, a nervous man calls, shouts and gesticulates, all in
vain. His wild antics
exhaust themselves Upon deaf ears.
Another man, his eye fixed with earnestness steps forward upon a
balcony, looks calmly into the heart of the assemblage, never moves a line of his face,
raises his hand for attention,
and stands like a statue while the fixed gaze holds the eyes of all the
multitude. He makes no sign,
expresses no appeal
with voice or glance; shows no mark of anxiety on his face, does nothing to ask
for silence, and there he stands a volcano of pent-up energy under absolute
control; and it is true that his perfect stillness gives him his magnetism. The attitude tells the complete story of the
situation; a man of heroic purpose determined to become the master of that mob.
This is life. It is also an actual incident. It tells the story of life.
What good would shouting do? What would be the use of frantic appeals, prayers,
entreaties, threats, stormy passion or plaintive coaxing? How many persons
would have thrown themselves into a paroxysm of action, from the sternest
command to the most intense soliciting, in the effort to still the mob? Yet
there was but one kind of person who could succeed in the attempt, and that was
the dead-still individual; one who could gaze calmly into the angry faces and
assert his superior power. One by one they looked upon him and came to
recognize his god-like bearing; their voices were lost in their eyes; a feeling
of approaching silence began to travel across the crowd; it deepened; the man
stood like a rock, yet alive to the highest degree; the shouts died away; all
was as quiet as the grave; and in the hush of that solemn stillness his every
word was heard and absorbed One man had mastered many thousands.
A well-known business man of great coolness and magnetism, took his
accounts home one night for the purpose of looking over them. He had a sum of
money with him, of which a desperado had knowledge. It was the hour of
midnight; stormy without, and lonely within. The man sat at his desk writing,
and thought he heard the sound of steps in the adjoining room which was
dark, although the door stood open. He was a man of magnetism as we have said. One of the essentials of
magnetism is coolness; coolness to an extraordinary degree. The person who gets excited, who
shows fear, who trembles, who quails before anything, is to that extent lacking
in this power. Coolness can be acquired. We have had letters from nervous persons who have said
they were incapable of becoming cool; andyet they conquered the fault as soon
as they began to develop magnetism.
Prom the very fact that nervous motions causea rapid loss of
vitality by throwing off the energy of the body, it could at once be seen that
the absence of coolness would amount to a loss of control over another
person. The man referred to
was of the combination required to cope with the burglar. The following conversation is
substantially that which took place: "Come in."
The burglar resolved to kill the merchant if he resisted; and, although
he was surprised at the announcement, he entered the room, leveled a revolver
at the head of his victim, approached him and said: "I've got you."
"Eh?"
"I've got you." "Sit down."
"No, I won't.
I'm here for business.
I've got you." "Eh?"
"You're mine.
Now give up."
"Isn't your language a little peculiar for a professional burglar?"
"Well, that's my lookout. Give me that money or you're a dead one."
"The money is all right. I give lots of money away without being asked
for it. I don't mind the
money. I have plenty for my
own use and to give away. I
don't like the tone of your voice." "That's all right. Be quick now. I'm here to do a clean job."
"What will you do?" "I'll kill you if you move."
"What good would it do you to kill me? You would hang for it."
"Hang nothing."
By this time the merchant, who had kept his eyes fixed on the burglar, found a slight evidence of
quailing in the latter. From that moment he was sure of the result.
"You will certainly be hung. Do you see that button?"
"Yes."
"Do you hear the sound below?"
"Officers?"
"Give me your revolver."
The man is now serving a term in the penitentiary.
Coolness with magnetism are sure to conquer all things; and these two
qualities belong together.
The more of one you get the more of the other will follow, provided the coolness is not of the blase, cold-blooded type of
stupidity. Remember
that the engine must be alive with power.
A minister stands in the pulpit delivering his sermon. He is languid, gentle, quiet,
cool, collected, effeminate, weak and yet free from nervousness. He lacks the energy of a
thoroughlylive man. There are
no fires in the engine; hence the quietude of the body.
Another minister stands in the pulpit delivering his sermon. He has
vitality enough, but it leaks out at all sides. His head beats the emphasis of
his ideas just as nearly all readers' and speakers' heads do. His eyes are
unsteady, looking in every direction without power of expression. He steps
about, shifting his weight every minute or two, now advancing, now retiring,
now going across to the right or the left, and never standing still very long
at a time. He brings the upper half of his body forward and bends to give
emphasis to a supposedly strong idea, doing this several times a minute. He
gestures in every sort of way, but contents himself to do finger movements in
the absence of the full-arm action whenever the thought is not weighty enough
to admit of gesticulation. Soon he has exhausted all that stock of energy that
would have gone to produce magnetism, and he now finds that he must make up in
the physical what he lacks in the magnetic, and he shouts and pounds.
Another minister, the rare kind, the individual with the greatest degree
of honesty because he has the conscience to equip himself for his profession,
stands in his pulpit delivering his sermon. He is cool, not because he is weak,
but because he knows that
great truths require
all the power n man possessesto give them
full weight of
utterance. He stands
still. When then is cause
for action of
the whole body he steps forward
with a single
movement as a stately ship might swing from her moorings, not
as a fidgety orator might jog about over the platform. His head
is not bobbing
up and down, right and left, to the rhythm of his
words, as is so commonly the case with speakers. He keeps his
headerect upon his shoulders,
strong, powerful, energetic, but
in perfect
repose. This is what
excites the admiration of the
congregation.
Few men and few women carry their heads in magnetic poise.
When weak it falls forward, or is inclined to the right or left,
or is tilted back; while the person of magnetism is of easier and
yetmore solid poise.
There is no setness, no stiffness about the
neck; but there is firmness and certainty of carriage that denotes
the presence of power.
To be still does not require that one be
stiff; the stillness of death holds that quality. We wish the
stillness of life.
When the ordinary person is told to straighten
up, to remove the lines of weakness, he has no other recourse
thanto the lines of hardness, and the latter is worse than the
former. Magnetism
steers us clear of these extremes.
The third minister of whom we spoke was magnetic. He had cultivated the
body and all its faculties. He knew the value of repose, of dead-stillness, as
he stood before his audience. The vitality that another might have thrown away
in useless action he kept in storage to be dealt out as he chose. His gestures
were inclined to assume the character of attitudes, for he presented as much
versatility in his physical portrayal of his thoughts as did any of his brother
preachers; but he preferred the gesture of the outstretched arm and expressive
position of the hand rather than the swinging motion so common to others. Why
is it that nearly all speakers believe that motion expresses more than
attitude? Does the blow dealt by the hand hit anybody in a gesture; and, if
not, why are the uplifted arm and clinched fist not more expressive of the
meaning of a blow? The speaker seeks to illustrate his thought. He cannot
reproduce life by acting its details. He cannot fire a gun when he tells of a killing.
Repose in the attitude of description is always more effective and far more
beautiful than action that never comes to a position of meaning.
A lawyer who holds mastery over himself at once wins respect He does not fly up out of his chair
to force his objection upon the judge. If the
interests of his client demand that he make objection he can always be heard,
and the more dignified he is the more likely he will be to get a full hearing. Judges admire cool, self-possessed lawyers; they dislike
the active, nervous fellows who try to carry
everything before them as by storm The cool lawyer is most powerful in handling
witnesses, for he thinks more rapidly and carries more trains of thoughts
than the excitable lawyer.
The habit of walking to and fro while speaking, is the result of
nervousness, and is very taxing on the vitality. It occurs before juries and before audiences
generally. Some men walk up
and down before a jury, striding from place to place as though the action were
impelled by a special degree of interest; but if you will take notice of the
successful, the brainy, the magnetic lawyers, and orators generally, you will
find them keeping closer to a given spot. It is true that action arouses latent magnetism but
when it is aroused, it should not be wasted and thrown away wantonly.
There is no more interesting study of human nature than that which is
devoted to watching people about you, and seeking to apply some of the laws of
life to their habits and methods of handling themselves.
A new phase of the study of personal magnetism is called the Comparative
System. It is employed by those who wish to make the greatest progress in the
least amount of time and with the least effort. It has been used with great
success by a number of
keen minded persons, and seems to have been invented by a man of unusual
magnetic power for his individual advancement.
The value of the Comparative System is that it requires no time
whatever, and no practice.
It is simplicity itself. All that is needed is to watch other
people, and study their vurious mannerisms and defects of handling
themselves; and compare each
action and each defect with yourself in the same line. Thus how does such a person sit, stand,
walk, talk, move about, exhibit unrest or lack of control, and so on; and what
of these defects if any, or merits, if any, do you possess, comparing each
and every detail?
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